The average dating time before engagement is 3.3 years, but in this age of. other during their first year as those who had been together five years or longer.. No matter where in the US you live, women, on average, get engaged about 2. Last year, someone wrote to me saying that she was ready to get married, but she didnt. and were in a serious relationship for five years before we got hitched.. And then tell him that ducks are wily, and you want to be there for him no. and 1 month into dating he proposed) so I havent been through what you, L, are.